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Elmrada
11-05-2011, 09:39 PM
I'm sure all of you have had the feeling of being self-conscious or paranoid as you get out of the car to go to the convention. The first time I cosplayed it was as Ranma Saotome. I was walking down the street with bright red hair and a color-matching shirt. People all over the streets were giving me odd gawks as I walked past, but I decided to square my shoulders and look like I really dressed like this everyday.
So, I want to hear your stories. How do you deal with the awful gawks and stares as you step out of the convention grounds?

zOmfgRick
11-05-2011, 09:40 PM
all I say is dont care what people think of you be happy and move forward.

Elmrada
11-05-2011, 09:43 PM
Well, yeah. I mean, I don't let it get to me. I enjoy doing it, it's fun, somewhat healthy, and overall a good social interaction. People just need to chill xD

zOmfgRick
11-05-2011, 09:46 PM
very true but thats life nothing will ever be perfect

luvu4never
11-05-2011, 10:08 PM
I'm sure all of you have had the feeling of being self-conscious or paranoid as you get out of the car to go to the convention. The first time I cosplayed it was as Ranma Saotome. I was walking down the street with bright red hair and a color-matching shirt. People all over the streets were giving me odd gawks as I walked past, but I decided to square my shoulders and look like I really dressed like this everyday.
So, I want to hear your stories. How do you deal with the awful gawks and stares as you step out of the convention grounds?
I know what you mean! I do feel self-conscious, but having my friend cosplaying with me makes it better. :) I just usually smile at their stares and maybe wave. It's funny sometimes to see how baffled they are haha!

Elmrada
11-05-2011, 10:11 PM
I know what you mean! I do feel self-conscious, but having my friend cosplaying with me makes it better. :) I just usually smile at their stares and maybe wave. It's funny sometimes to see how baffled they are haha!

I wave or say "Howdy!" just to be stero-typical. It always makes me wonder "What? Can't someone dress up every now and then?" Cracks me up. Having friends there is always awesome. Then you guys can be weird together ^_^

KittyAnne7152
11-06-2011, 02:14 AM
I've actually stopped noticing. Sometimes my friends who aren't as used to it will giggle awkwardly and tug on my sleeve and say "did you see that, those people were totally staring at you!"
To which I reply "Let them."
Seriously. So desensitized to it.

Elmrada
11-06-2011, 08:44 AM
I reply "Let them."

Very good point. I mean, you can't expect to be treated the same if your dressed up as a Demon Princess, but people could atleast not be so rude as to say rude comments and what not about you. Especially if you're in the same elevator as them >_>

KittyAnne7152
11-06-2011, 11:44 AM
Yeah, but common courtesy is so increasingly rare these days, it doesn't really phase me much. I suppose I'm just jaded. Jaded with thick skin.

Totakeke
11-06-2011, 02:08 PM
I like to mess with people a little.

When I dress as Gin-San, I'm sorta in character. I will pick my nose or do something silly just to laugh at their reactions.

Nekki Basara, haha I just start playing guitar and people tend to lighten up.

In any case, fuggem. They don't know the fun they are missing out on!

RedeadDie
11-06-2011, 05:20 PM
I only really cosplay at conventions, organized private photoshoots, and certain events. When people end up gawking for a long while, I walk right up to them with a huge smile, shake their hand, and introduce myself. I then inform them why I am dressed like this and explain it's a active and positive hobby I enjoy with many others around the world.

You won't believe how many people who stare the whole time are accepting and thankful that someone informed them. (It's a very business like approach I suppose. Helps out with where I work with bridal dresses.)

Elmrada
11-06-2011, 05:57 PM
I only really cosplay at conventions, organized private photoshoots, and certain events. When people end up gawking for a long while, I walk right up to them with a huge smile, shake their hand, and introduce myself. I then inform them why I am dressed like this and explain it's a active and positive hobby I enjoy with many others around the world.

You won't believe how many people who stare the whole time are accepting and thankful that someone informed them. (It's a very business like approach I suppose. Helps out with where I work with bridal dresses.)

That's a very good idea. I never thought about approaching someone. I only thought they'd back-pedal away from someone in a wig with foam-daggers. xD

teru_no_hime
01-19-2012, 04:19 AM
I love getting stared at when I'm in costume, it's the whole reason I do it XD I guess it also helps that I'm a theater kid and being in the spotlight isn't anything new to me. I get asked all the time if I'm auditioning for something or if I'm on break from a play or show whenever I go out to eat in costume. It's great.

Fox
01-19-2012, 10:20 AM
I love it too! I love it when people look at me weird, maybe its cause I like all the attention. haha But I think its fun, I don't care what they think, I've gotten some pretty weird looks and stuff before, but its all good. I'm having fun doing what I love and I won't let them change that ^.^
One lady had her kids take pictures with me once...

lattin12
01-19-2012, 10:27 AM
I don't really mind the staring, but the intense staring creeps me out. I usually just smile and wave or go and talk to the person. It surprises alot of people that I can crossplay :)

Patches
01-19-2012, 12:52 PM
I actually heard a grown man mention " WoW these people are freaks!" to his wife.. i then proceeded to turn my head slowly and give him the biggest creepiest smile i could... stayed that way for 3 floors. AH... good times.

Fox
01-19-2012, 01:47 PM
haha thats hillarious! I think it would be fun to mess with people like that

gothlibrarian
01-19-2012, 03:48 PM
The best experience I had was when I took the bus to San Japan the first or second year. I was standing at the bus stop with pink hair, a pink maid outfit, black cat ears and tail. The bus driver pulled up stared at me for a minute and then finally opened the door. I think he thought he might be having a hallucination or something. It was awesome.

Why dress up if you don't want to be stared at!? That's part of the fun. Sometimes I forget I'm dressed up until I notice people really looking at me especially when I dress like a pirate because I've done that so often, forgotten and gone to HEB or something. Then I'm like "why are people staring at me......oh yeah I'm a pirate."

Maru
01-19-2012, 03:56 PM
It doesn't bother me, but it generally helps that I am with my friends. Most of the time, by the end of the day, I forget that i'm in cosplay.

ChrHolm
01-19-2012, 04:31 PM
I wonder how long it takes for some people to realize, it's a Costume! And in some cases a darn good one. :) I can understand a few stares because a cosplay is good or something different, but when it is an "I can't figure this out/ does not compute" stare that goes on for too long. Then the person is just clueless.

teru_no_hime
01-19-2012, 04:43 PM
One lady had her kids take pictures with me once...

I'm going to miss that this year with not being in my Princess Tiana costume!

Ceeney
01-19-2012, 06:19 PM
I usually just smile and wave to people who stare, haha. most of the time when people ask about it and I explain they're genuinely amused ~
although i've gotten quite a few "hey, sailor moon!!" shouts at me from across the street despite the fact that my costume did not at all look like sailor moon...

Tahis
01-19-2012, 07:30 PM
I always react the way my character would.

pyramidheadgirl
01-19-2012, 07:51 PM
way back in the beginning i used to feel a tiny bit embarrassed but got over it really quick cuz I'm a bit of a showoff at times XD and since i usually cosplay as cute or pretty characters i usually strut my stuff and see jealous faces or guys of course oogling like crazy haha. at sj though i yelled to the ppl on those riverwalk boats though. me and 007 were ash and misty so we were waving at the passing boat and the ppl on there stared back at us all dumbly so i was like WELL F*CK YOU THEN DONT WAVE BACK AT US! then we laughed like derps and went inside. just dont care about what others think and continue to have fun, not like youre doing anything wrong, theres no law that says you cant dress how you want either. thats my little advice XD

ezio auditore da firenze
01-20-2012, 12:45 PM
you know the staring and all that stuff is just a part of it, of course some people will be jackasses and act rude, but generally people find costuming and the con interesting, and as long as your costume isn't just incredibly disturbing things usually end with pictures or hugs

merus322
02-26-2012, 02:34 AM
It's fun.I went down on the board walk,and this little girl started staring at me.A few seconds later she asked her mom "can i have hair like hers??" her mom looked at me and was like,horrified.I saw her face out of the corner of my eye and oh gawd,it was hysterical.Then again,i suppose it made sense,since i was cosplaying as Shana,thus i had Bright red hair XD

kimei
02-27-2012, 05:33 PM
Stares are ok, especially when you cosplay like I do....something about unblinking anime faced masks tends to get that reaction. Usually outside of cons people are polite, some say hi, I do tend to wave at people i see staring at me tho too. Actually, even in a con people are at least polite, although some look at little disturbed. Nabeshin last year at San Japan totally loved running into our group though, he wanted pics with us!

ThePlayboyBunny
02-27-2012, 08:14 PM
I see it like this: if you are in any sort of cosplay, expect stares, no complaints.

INVEESABLE
02-27-2012, 11:19 PM
Very good point. I mean, you can't expect to be treated the same if your dressed up as a Demon Princess, but people could atleast not be so rude as to say rude comments and what not about you. Especially if you're in the same elevator as them >_>

I love pulling this out of my arsenal when dealing with people like that. What you do is act like you didn't hear them, wait 30-45 seconds after they are finished talking, then turn to them with a blank look on your face and say "Did you say something?" It always pisses the person off and that makes my day. You can also throw in a cold smirk and a mad cackle as you leave the room.

Totakeke
02-27-2012, 11:34 PM
Stare back. Stare back hard.

alycan16
02-28-2012, 12:48 AM
i second mad cackle, everyday is good for a mad cackle

ThePlayboyBunny
02-28-2012, 04:29 AM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zf-ra904rrw

That's what I do

lil_kitsune69
02-28-2012, 06:01 PM
I usually just smile and wave to people who stare, haha. most of the time when people ask about it and I explain they're genuinely amused ~
although i've gotten quite a few "hey, sailor moon!!" shouts at me from across the street despite the fact that my costume did not at all look like sailor moon...
OMG!!! I KNOW!!! It's so annoying when you're walking around and random people are yelling out at you "Hey Sailor Moon!!!" or "Hey Goku!!!" and it's like.....T-T

SquidgyGal
02-28-2012, 08:41 PM
To paraphrase Oscar Wilde, The only thing worst than being stared at is not being stared at. As an actor and a cosplay enthusiast, it's kinda the point of dressing up, isn't it? We don't wear neon colored wigs and tiny skirts to not be looked upon. I say let them stare, offer to take a picture, then try to convince normal people you're shooting a movie, and would they kindly get out of frame because the lighting is crucial at this time of day.

Patches
02-28-2012, 09:17 PM
hmmm..... maybe i should do what ReDeadDie does and be very bussiness like with people who stare... ? but will that give me satisfaction. Satisfaction. Satisfaction. -techno break-

kimei
02-29-2012, 04:52 PM
Stare back. Stare back hard.

I think I have that covered :) Actually, the staring look is kinda what freaks some people out...

Patches
03-03-2012, 03:55 AM
We can try turning them to the cosplay side. With cookies. And pie.

altair
03-14-2012, 04:57 PM
First year I cosplayed I had to walk through a good part of the mall to get to the convention center that the con wass held in. I was dressed like Altair and was constantly stared at. But I honestly didn't mind the attention. A few people who didn't even know about the convention ran up to me and asked for a few photos. It was pretty cool.

CosplayHolic
03-21-2012, 12:01 AM
The first time I cosplayed I was really nervous, so when I got out of the car to go inside the convention the stares I got made me incredibly shy and I just hurried inside.
Now that i've cosplayed more I just wave back at people who stare, or just think to myself "I don't really care what they think." because it's a hobby I enjoy, and I wont let anyone's opinions stop me from doing it. ^_^

LuckyCharms
03-21-2012, 02:31 PM
Stare back. Stare back hard.

This is what I always do. :tongue:

Akiyhrah
03-26-2012, 11:31 AM
I've been stared at numerous times... the funniest was when I was cosplaying as a Witch from Left 4 Dead. I actually was scaring children... hahaha I tried to be friendly and smile at the kids to show them that I'm just in a costume, but that just made it worse xD
I dunno.. I'm used to it now I guess. It doesn't really bother me when non-cosplayers stare at me, because I know I look odd to them and they are probably confused. If someone asks me about my costume, I try to explain cosplay to them, but otherwise I just ignore it.